What kind of questions do you get when people find out that you have an expat partner?
Here are some real life examples:
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Person A : “How old is he?”
Me : “ xx years old.”
Person A : “What?!! In that age he must have slept with plenty of girls already!! What are you doing with such a guy…aren’t you disgusted??”
Me : 
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Person B : “So, are you married?”
Me (partly for the sake of convenience…): “Yes.”
Person B : “Is he a ‘bule’?”
Me : “Yes.”
Person B : “How did you get him?”
Me (slightly surprised with her choice of words, get – for goodness sake…
) : “Hm, I didn’t get him, he got me.”
Person B : “Oh, do you think he couldn’t find anyone in his own country? Nggak laku?” ( I can’t really translate this part, because men and women are essentially not for sale, and there is only one in stock anyway…can I say ‘he didn’t manage to sell himself out??’ 
)
Me : “What the hell???!!!” 
(of course I didn’t say it out loud….)
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Person C : “Oh, where is your husband? He doesn’t come with you today?”
Me : “Oh, no. He’s out of the country, visiting his parents.”
Person C : “Is he coming back?”
Me : (he?? If he’s my husband, he’d better be coming back… )
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Person D : making gesture toward the Man, one single word, “Husband?”
Me : “Yes.”
Person D : “Must be great, huh, married to a bule,” with a meaningful smirk on his face.
Me : trying hard to be nonchalant, “It’s okay, he’s just an ordinary man.” 
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Gosh…from stereotypical to sick humor remarks and questions….I wonder what other people might ask…or might be asked…
The bule happens to be a very sweet, responsible, a bit conservative regarding that point that Person A was trying to make, by the way. And we are having a good time. Just like any other partnership.
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